L.D.S. v. R.J.S.

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NON-PRECEDENTIAL DECISION - SEE SUPERIOR COURT I.O.P. 65.37

L.D.S., IN THE SUPERIOR COURT OF PENNSYLVANIA Appellee

v.

R.J.S.,

Appellant No. 648 EDA 2014

Appeal from the Order Entered January 30, 2014 In the Court of Common Pleas of Montgomery County Civil Division at No(s): 2003-19168

BEFORE: BOWES, OTT, and STRASSBURGER,* JJ. MEMORANDUM BY STRASSBURGER, J.: FILED AUGUST 11, 2014

R.J.S. (Mother) appeals from the order of January 30, 2014,1 which transferred primary physical custody of S.S. (Child) from Mother to L.D.S.

as moot; vacate the January 30, 2014 order; and remand for the entry of a custody order consistent with this memorandum.

Mother and Father married in September 1997, Child was born in August 1998, and Mother and Father were divorced by decree entered in

November 2000. At all times since the divorce, the parties have shared ____________________________________________

* Retired Senior Judge assigned to the Superior Court. 1 The order is dated January 29, but was not filed until January 30, 2014. We have amended the caption accordingly.

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legal custody of Child, and Mother has had primary physical custody of Child in Montgomery County, Pennsylvania. Father has resided in Alexandria, Virginia, where he now lives with his wife (Stepmother), their two children Child, as well as his exercise of that custody, are issues that the parties have litigated in Montgomery County, by petitions to modify custody and for contempt, since 2003. schedule in Virginia included one scheduled weekend each month during the school y Father alternated major holidays from year to year. The September 2012 custody order also provided that Father and

However, Child spent only a fraction of the scheduled time with Father, and the ordered counseling neither commenced immediately nor occurred with regularity or frequency. The trial court summarized the resultant continuation of the litigation as follows.

requesting the visits between Father and [C]hild occur in

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hearings] on the outstanding petitions on October 24, 2013 and January 14, 201[4]. On January 29, 2014, the [trial court] entered a custod reasoning behind the custody order) which kept the shared legal custody provision intact but [following the end of the school year,] awarded primary physical custody to Father subject to cal custody for eight weeks in the summer, one weekend per month and five additional custody weekends that could be used any time during the year. The trial court also ordered Father and [C]hild to undergo counseling immediately and intensive counseling in the summer of 2014.

Trial Court Opinion, 3/24/2014, at 1-2.

Mother timely filed a notice of appeal and a concise statement of maters complained of on appeal on February 27, 2014, and the trial court filed its opinion on March 24, 2014.

Mother states the following questions for our review.

1. Did the trial court abuse its discretion and commit an

favor on factors [3, 4, 9, and 10 of 23 Pa.C.S. § 5328(a)], when the same court, by custody order of September 5, 2012, found

2. Did the trial court abuse its discretion and commit an error of law in analyzing factors [1, 8, 13, and 16 of subsection 5328(a)], and in its ultimate conclusion?

3. physical custody to Father the result of partiality, prejudice, bias and ill will against Mother and the minor Child and in favor of Father?

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4. Did the trial court abuse its discretion and commit an

with Mother was not well-reasoned?

-2 (suggested answers and unnecessary capitalization omitted).

questions on appeal collectively, it is clear that she is arguing that proper application of the statutory factors requires a physical custody. Thus, rather than examine each of her questions that led it to the opposite conclusion to determine whether it committed an error of law or abuse of discretion.

Our standard of review of custody determinations is as follows.

In reviewing a custody order, our scope is of the broadest type and our standard is abuse of discretion. We must accept findings of the trial court that are supported by competent evidence of record, as our role does not include making independent factual determinations. In addition, with regard to issues of credibility and weight of the evidence, we must defer to the presiding trial judge who viewed and assessed the witnesses first-hand. However, we are not bound by the trial court's deductions or inferences from its factual findings. Ultimately, the test is whether the trial court's conclusions are unreasonable as shown by the evidence of record. We may reject the conclusions of the trial court only if they involve an error of law, or are unreasonable in light of the sustainable findings of the trial court.

J.R.M. v. J.E.A., 33 A.3d 647, 650 (Pa. Super. 2011) (quoting Durning v. Balent/Kurdilla, 19 A.3d 1125, 1128 (Pa. Super. 2011)).

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the best-interests analysis, a trial court is required to consider the factors set forth at 23 Pa.C.S. § 5328(a). See E.D. v. M.P., 33 A.3d 73, 80 (Pa.

The section 5328(a) custody factors are as follows.

(1) Which party is more likely to encourage and permit frequent and continuing contact between the child and another party.

(2) The present and past abuse committed by a party or

continued risk of harm to the child or an abused party and which party can better provide adequate physical safeguards and supervision of the child.

(3) The parental duties performed by each party on behalf of the child.

(4) education, family life and community life.

(5) The availability of extended family.

(6) ps.

(7) The well-reasoned preference of the child, based on the

(8) The attempts of a parent to turn the child against the other parent, except in cases of domestic violence where reasonable safety measures are necessary to protect the child from harm.

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(9) Which party is more likely to maintain a loving, stable, consistent and nurturing relationship with the child adequate for the child's emotional needs.

(10) Which party is more likely to attend to the daily physical, emotional, developmental, educational and special needs of the child.

(11) The proximity of the residences of the parties.

(12) make appropriate child-care arrangements.

(13) The level of conflict between the parties and the willingness and ability of the parties to cooperate with one

another party is not evidence of unwillingness or inability to cooperate with that party.

(14) The history of drug or alcohol abuse of a party or member

(15) The mental and physical condition of a party or member of

(16) Any other relevant factor. 23 Pa.C.S. § 5328(a). the factors challenged by Mother on appeal,2 it appears that little has ____________________________________________

2 The only factor not challenged by Mother on appeal which favors one party is that, where possible, siblings should be raised together absent compelling reasons to do L.F.F. v. P.R.F., 828 A.2d 1148, 1152 (Pa. Super. 2003)

Gancas v. Schultz policy is a consideration in, rather than a determinant of, custody L.F.F. (Footnote Continued Next Page)

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changed factually. Rather, the lack of improvement in the compliance of Mother and Child with the custody orders led the trial court to conclude that a new custody arrangement was necessary to force Child to have a relationship with Father. and continuity in education, family life, and community life. In 2012, the trial court emphasized the importance of this factor:

which [the trial c]ourt hopes to provide with this custody order. both parties to cooperate and enforce the order. [Child] has been enrolled in the Lower Merion school system for the majority of his school years. He has numerous friends, hopes to enroll in TSA or the Science Olympiad and therefore the [trial c]ourt is hesitant to remove him from this school system. Furthermore, [Child] has an IEP and is vested with the school system.

Order, 9/6/2012, at 4 (emphasis in original). In 2014, the trial court acknowledged that factor 4 continued to weigh heavily in favor of maintaining primary physical custody with Mother, but concluded that it was

The [trial c]ourt acknowledges the need for stability and

Mother testified that while [Child] was initially diagnosed on the _______________________ (Footnote Continued)

Virginia with Father. Father testified that Stepsiblings adore Child, and that Child has a good relationship with them. Child testified that there is not

10/24/2013, at 120, who are both significantly younger than Child and have never lived with Child full-time. Nonetheless, we note that this factor weighs in favor of Father.

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autism spectrum, she has worked hard as his educational advocate over the years and was successful in mainstreaming him into regular classes. [Child] has been enrolled in the Lower Merion school system for the majority of his school years, has an IEP, and achieves excellent grades. Mother testified that [Child] has significant extracurricular involvement to create ties to the community including weekend cleanups, working the polls on Election Day, and tutoring younger children. Father disagreed with this assertion and maintained that [Child] only recently began participating in some of these activities. Father presented testimony of the school district where he lives as well as the many extracurricular activities that are available for [Child]. While the [trial c]ourt understands that [Child] has always lived in Pennsylvani

significance of the father-son relationship, which is not being fostered in the present environment.

Findings of Fact, 1/30/2014, at 4.

In deny 2012, the trial court stated as follows regarding factor 1 (which party is more likely to encourage frequent and continuing contact between Child and the other parent).

Father testified that, if given primary physical custody, he would cooperate with Mother as it is his belief that the primary custodial parent has to be cooperative with the non-custodial parent to foster a relationship. While the [trial c]ourt was concerned about how, during trial, Mother was unable to put -custodial parent and consequently unwilling to give Father more custodial time; the subsequent emails submitted to the [trial c]ourt demonstrated that Mother was willing to ensure Father received his summer custodial visitation.

Order, 9/6/2012, at 3. In 2014, the trial court offered the following frustration with Mother and Child.

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that Father would be more likely to encourage and permit frequent and continuing contact between [Child] and Mother. Father testified that, if given primary custody, he would ensure that [Child] maintained contact with Mother. The [trial c]ourt did not find Mother credible when she testified that she has encouraged [Child] to visit Father in Virginia. [Child] consistently has not abided by

weekend time with Father. For example, [Child] did not attend his summer custodial period with Father in 2012, and in 2013, after an emergency conference where [the trial c]ourt ordered [Child] to go to Virginia for three weeks, he still refused. Despite these blatant violations, Mother has not punished [Child] for his behavior, which leads [the trial c]ourt to believe that she does not believe his conduct is a problem. Moreover, according OurFamilyWizard[3] calendar with activities, trips and appointments that thwart his custodial time.

Rather, Mother consistently files petitions to modify

though the judges of this Commonwealth have emphasized the

excuses for [Child] as to why he cannot spend the requisite time with Father (for example, activities, trips, etc.). At the January 14, 2014 hearing date, Mother testified that she would like a

shortened to six weeks (no longer than one or two weeks at a

Mother also testified that she believes it is preferable if Father travels to Philadelphia for his custodial time even though Father is remarried with two young children and has a full-time dental practice where he is on call at the hospital for dental related traumas.

custodial rights has been an ongoing problem. In the [trial ____________________________________________

3 -based website which is designed as a medium for divorced or separated parents to communicate and manage issues regardi Wilcoxon v. Moller, 132 So.3d 281, 284 n.1 (Fla. App. 2014).

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Mother imposed no consequences on [Child] for his defiance of authority and advised her to adopt structure and disciplinary techniques. That has not occurred. Instead, [Child] continued to violate [the

[Child]. Findings of Fact, 1/30/2014, at 2-3 (footnotes omitted).

Factor 7 considers the well-reasoned preference of Child. Child indicated both in 2012 and in 2014 that he preferred to remain with Mother.

The [trial c]ourt interviewed [Child] on July 24, 2012 and found him to be mature with good judgment. To protect the confidentiality of this communication, the [trial c]ourt will not reveal all the details but will state that [Child] relayed that Mother does encourage him to spend time with Father and that she has tried everything to make him comply. However, [Child] revealed that his disinterest [sic] in spending time with Father

family which make him uncomfortable and that [Stepmother] and Father speak derogatorily about Mother and her family. It appears that [Stepmother] has a derogatory nickname for Mother that upsets him. [Child] feels that the questions Father asks are not sincere but are geared toward the custody battles. [Child] agreed to return to Virginia to make an attempt to work out his differences with Father. On or about August 3, 2012,

concerns, and the parties are directed to set up counseling with Father and [Child].

Order, 9/6/2012, at 4-5. However, in 2014, the trial court changed its

Most recently, [Child] testified before the [trial c]ourt on October 24, 2013 and January 14, 2014. On January 13, 2014, [Child] stated that he did not want the custodial schedule to change. However, the [trial c]ourt did not conclude that -reasoned. For example, at the

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October 24, 2013 hearing [Child] testified that Father

of any incidents, [Child] testified that father told him to go to his room and stay there. During spring break [in] 2013, [Child]

even though Father was not home at the time that the police ed that he has not spent any time with Father and that Father is not nice to him. The [trial c]ourt did not find [Child] credible as the

tainted and [Child] has a tendency to exaggerate incidents. Findings of Fact, 1/30/2014, at 5 (footnote omitted).

Pursuant to factor 8, the trial court is to consider the attempts of a parent to turn Child against the other parent. In 2012, the trial court found that

both parents may engage in that type of behavior to some degree. As already discussed, [Child] testified to the derogatory comments made by Father and his family. However the [trial c]ourt was concerned about the story relayed by Lisette Parks[4] where [Child] allegedly stated that Mother did not want him to speak to Lisette who has an obvious love and affection for [Child] and cherished her relationship with him. Furthermore, the [trial c]ourt finds the chain of emails, as to which parent is actually using [Child] to obtain information, is also despicable.

Order, 9/6/2012, at 5. The trial court offered the following analysis of factor 8 in 2014.

The [trial court] is concerned that Mother fosters and/or is content with an atmosphere that relegates Father to a lesser status in the eyes of [Child]. While both parties claim not to make derogatory comments about the other parent in the presence of [Child]; [Child] testified that father and his family ____________________________________________

4 It is unclear to this Court who Lisette Parks is. It appears that she might be a relative of Stepmother.

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make derogatory comments about Mother and call her names in Spanish. While Father did acknowledge that some comments were made about Mother; the [trial c]ourt did not find that the comments were outrageous or ongoing. Although there is no evidence that Mother is openly degrading Father to [Child]; as discussed in detail in 23 Pa.C.S. §

violations of the custody orders has enabled [Child] to refuse to

visits. Findings of Fact, 1/30/2014, at 5.

Factor 9 requires the trial court to weigh which party is more likely to maintain a loving, stable, consistent and nurturing relationship with Child requires the court to determine which parent is more likely to attend to the daily physical, emotional, developmental, educational, and special needs of Child. In 2012, the trial court offered the following discussion of factors 9 and 10.

It was evident to the [trial c]ourt that both parties love [Child] and either would maintain the relationship appropriate for his

rigidity and need to make points. This became evident through his testimony, emails and conversations. Father needs to be cognizant that [Child] is now a teenager with his own ideas, needs and opinions and the [trial c]ourt is hopeful that counseling will help Father and [Child] develop the means for a healthier and more mutually acceptable mode of communication.

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As noted above, it was evident to the [trial c]ourt that both parties love [Child] and either would maintain the relationship

the [trial c]ourt finds that Mother would be more likely and able to attend the physical[,] emotional and educational needs of

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[Child]. [Child] has always lived with Mother and attended the same school district. [Child] really likes his school and is excited about the new school year. There was no testimony presented

tended to and Mother appears to have the time and ability to be available for [Child].

Order, 9/6/2012, at 5-6. The testimony offered at the hearings leading up through with the court-ordered counseling, and his relationship with Child had deteriorated. Nonetheless, the trial court analyzed factors 9 and 10 quite differently in 2014.

Both parties are capable of maintaining a loving and nurturing relationship with [Child]; however, Mother must realize

with Father. Father testified to his belief that [Child] is under a great deal of pressure to make Mother happy. For example, Father testified that [Child] will not let Father take pictures of him having a good time in Virginia.

Father, his persistence in not spending time with him and the vastly different stories that are told by Father and [Child]. For example, Father testified to the loving relationship between his Virginia family and [Child] and the great time everyone had on Thanksgiving. When [Child] testified, he indicated that he did not feel close to his half-siblings and he begged his aunt and uncle to let him go home with them. At this point, without substantial counseling, the [trial c]ourt has concerns about whether Father can solely repair the relationship with [Child]. If Father is willing and committed to engage in serious and meaningful therapy with [Child] (which he says that he is), [the trial court] believe[s] that father would be able to institute the structure necessary to maintain a more stable and consistent relationship for [Child].

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[Child] in 2007 and mainstreaming him thereafter. Father attends the yearly IEP meetings by phone. As primary

developmental and special needs (regarding schooling); however, the [trial court] believes that Father is also capable of attending to these needs if [Child] is in his primary custody.

conclusio

have contact with both parents. Findings of Fact, 1/30/2014, at 5-6.

The level of conflict and cooperation between the parents is the focus of factor 13. Again, nothing appears to have changed over the years regarding this factor. The trial court noted the high degree of conflict and lack of cooperation both in 2012 and in 2014.

Testimony revealed that there is a great level of conflict between the parties and their unwillingness and inability to cooperate with one another. The parties are both obviously intelligent and bear considerable anger against each other. It was very apparent that their respective strong wills make[] it nearly impossible to encourage co-parenting strategies. Furthermore, the [trial c]ourt noticed an underlying difference in the ideologies the parties have for parenting [Child]. At one

struc defying authority (for example, for reading legal mail or for not attending custodial visitation with Father), Mother had no

punishments.[5] As [Child] is now a teenager and entering high ____________________________________________

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school, Mother will need to provide more structure to ensure that [Child] has the support he needs as he faces the challenges that

inability to cooperate and provide a semblance of consistency in parenting [Child] is even more harmful to [Child].

Order, 9/6/2012, at 6-7.

There is a high level of conflict and a seemingly nonexistent level of cooperation between the parties. In actuality, this case ranks as one of the highest conflict cases the [trial court] has ever presided over. The case was originally filed in 2003 and, including the [trial court], there have been seven judges who have presided over this matter.

The parties do not communicate over the telephone, rather they only communicate via text or email. Father restricted

for her use; however, Father testified that he only checks that email address every two to three days. Father also testified that he does not regularly check the OurFamilyWizard program, which was ordered as of September 5, 2012. Father seemingly

then readily admits he does not consistently track any of the avenues of communication. Mother, on the other hand, assumes that Father should be aware of certain events by virtue of the fact that the event is plugged into the OurFamilyWizard calendar. Mother must realize that even if she inputs an event

separate email requesting that Father relinquish his custody

Merely inputting the event into OurFamilyWizard custodial time does not mean that Father has agreed to the event.

The parties blame each other for the conflict and neither can see his or her contribution to the problems. For example, while Mother complies with the order to communicate and uses _______________________ (Footnote Continued)

related to the instant appeal that suggests that Child has misbehaved, and thus warranted punishment, in any way unrelated to his refusal to spend time with Father.

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OurFamilyWizard complains that he does not receive information but rarely checks his email or the OurFamilyWizard calendar communication has caused negative consequences such as misunderstandings with train schedules and ongoing problems with custody schedules.

Findings of Fact, 1/30/2014, at 7.

Factor 16 allows the trial court to expound on any other factor it finds includes no discussion under factor 16. In 2014, the trial court offered the following.

first order issued by the [trial court], dated April 25, 2012, directed Father and [Child] to attend joint counseling. Pursuant to this order, the parties were to submit the names of counselors and agree on a therapist. The [trial c]ourt agreed to make several concessions to Father (such as scheduling at the end of the day, finding a therapist close to the train and/or allowing Skype sessions) considering the fact that Father was traveling from Virginia. After the counselor was changed (for a variety of reasons), on September 21, 2012, [the trial c]ourt ordered Father and [Child] to commence therapy with Dr. Talia Eisenstein. Unfortunately, the therapy did not commence until late January 2013 and subsequently broke down.13 From August through September, the [trial court] entered an additional order directing Father to commence counseling. Despite these orders, Father apparently attended only one session in November. However, Father produced several emails from November through January showing several attempts on his part to schedule both in person and Skype sessions with Dr. Eisenstein.

schedule and lack of availability. _____ 13 Dr. Eisenstein submitted a written report to the [trial court] on April 17, 2013 citing various difficulties with the

Philadelphia for sessions and the ineffectiveness of Skype

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sessions. Dr. Eisenstein noted that she did not believe she could effectively provide therapy under the circumstances.

Father testified that he believes the therapy (with Dr. Eisenstein) is being used as a club to interfere [with] and sabotage his custody. He testified that when he tries to discuss issues with [Child], he is told by [Child] that they have to wait to discuss it in therapy. He felt that the therapy was not helpful because it is being used to thwart and delay custody since [the trial c]ourt stressed the need for both father and son to attend. The [trial c]ourt agrees with Father that the therapy (or lack thereof) is being used, to some degree, as an excuse for

c]ourt believes that a stringent course of therapy is required for Father to repair the father-son relationship. If Father does not

intensive therapy, the [trial c]ourt will consider vacating its order and reinstating the previous order.

Findings of Fact, 1/30/2014, at 8-9.

conclusions are unreasonable under the circumstances of this case, and ultimately the trial court abused its discretion in awarding Father primary physical custody of Child.

As noted, the facts have not changed much between the 2012 and 2014 orders. Chi aspects other than his refusal to spend time with Father. Mother still does

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Virginia. Father still has not attended more than sporadically the counseling with Child that the trial court has ordered repeatedly,6 and does not check his email or OurFamilyWizard schooling and activities.

the custody factors, what failure of Mother and Child7 to obey its prior custody orders. It appears that ____________________________________________

6 The trial court ordered counseling to begin by order entered in May 2012. Other orders requiring Father to participate in weekly counseling were entered in 2012 and 2013. According to Mother, Father attended exactly two sessions. The testimony is unclear whether this number includes all sessions with all counselors over the entire time counseling was ordered. However, Father admitted to attending only two sessions in the thirteen months prior to the October 2013 hearing. If Father had participated in weekly counseling, he would have attended at least four sessions each month for twenty months. 7 For example, the trial court had the following exchange with Child.

[Trial Court]: child who is just not obeying my orders. And I have worked with

done everything you wanted me to do. Everything you asked

agreement, kind of a contract, that I was going to give you the safety measures that you needed and you were going to

the bargain at all. So you tell me what we need to do to make you comply with these orders.

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want to do that. (Footnote Continued Next Page)

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s decision to place Child with Father. See, e.g., Findings of Fact, 1/30/2014,

r may be an appropriate foundation for a Clapper v. Harvey, 716 A.2d 1271, 1275 (Pa. Super. 1998). Rather, such

ent so obstructs the visits between the child and the non-custodial parent that the

English, 469 A.2d at 273 (quoting Pamela J.K. v. Roger D.J., 419 A.2d 1301, 1309 (Pa. Super. 1980)).

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[Child]: Am I allowed to be put in jail?

[Trial court]: can assure you, I would never do that to you, okay, but at some point you have to start cooperating with me.

N.T., 10/24/2013, at 147, 150.

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Here, Mother pleaded with Child to spend the ordered time with Father. Her error was declining to punish or otherwise coerce Child to go when Child refused. The trial court has the power to sanction Mother for

he custody orders. The proper question for custody modification, however, is what custody best interests. remain with Mother as not well-reasoned.

The weight to be accorded a child's preference varies with the age, maturity and intelligence of that child, together with the reasons given for the preference. Moreover, as children grow older, more weight must be given to the preference of the child. As this Court has recently reaffirmed, where the households of both parents were equally suitable, a child's preference to live with one parent could not but tip the evidentiary scale in favor of that parent.

B.C.S. v. J.A.S., 994 A.2d 600, 604 (Pa. Super. 2010) (quoting Wheeler v. Mazur, 793 A.2d 929, 937-38 (Pa. Super. 2002)).8 ____________________________________________

8 It has been said that a child of 16 or 17 is like an elephant - he sleeps

have to recognize the limitations of their power in determining where older teenagers must reside.

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incidents with Father is supported by the record.9 However, Father admitted to such things as yelling at Child so loudly that Child called the police, N.T., 1/14/2014, at 98; asking a police officer who showed up one of the times Child called to arrest Child for assault because he thought having Child arrested was in held in contempt and adjudicated delinquent, N.T., 10/24/2013, at 44-45; and threatening to send Child to military school, N.T., 1/14/2014, at 41. Thus, Child is not imagining that there is conflict.

Further, the trial court ignored other reasons Child offered for not wanting to move to Virginia:

here, everything I worked for, my family loves me up here, everything, everything I do, my school, my life. And if you just take that away from me and you move me down there, there

friends. My dad, I N.T., 1/14/2014, at 268.10 Given that Child is a teenager, preparing to begin his junior year of high school, and he spoke of issues which are not ____________________________________________ 9 10/24/2013, at 115. Upon further questioning, Child indicated that what

Id. 10 Child has an expressive language disorder. See, e.g., N.T., 1/14/2014, at 278. Although he wished to read a statement that he had written at the (Footnote Continued Next Page)

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only reasonable, but expected for a child his age, his preference deserves consideration.

Next, the trial court strongly emphasized the importance of counselling 10/24/2013, at 151. Indeed, it went so far as to conclude that Father was Findings of Fact, 1/30/2014, at 6.

Yet, as noted above, see note 6, supra, Father has spent two years disobeying orders to participate in counseling. He testified in October 2013 that he does not believe that having participated in the ordered counseling would have made any difference to his relationship with Child. See N.T., 10/24/2013, at 43; id. at 44 (stating that one hour a week is not going to change anything; it would not be any different than no counseling at all). just coming down to live with you is going to change the entire relationship

Id. at 44.11

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suggestion of Dr. Eisenstein, the trial court would not allow it. N.T., 1/14/2014, at 272. 11 Father also testified that he wants Child to move to Virginia because Child

Id. at 236. The testimony bears out the trial co (Footnote Continued Next Page)

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belief that Father suddenly will comply with orders to attend counseling, and its decision to predicate a change of custody on that belief, is unreasonable

-standing antipathy. emotional needs is unsupportable. Father has to develop a loving and nurturing relationship with Child before he can maintain one. Although the exaggerated or unwarranted, it is unquestioned that Child is emotionally distraught about his interactions with Father. At times, Father appears to be oblivious to the effect his actions have on Child:

You know, that night which you speak of that, you know, I raised my voice at him I thought I connected, I got through and, you

our nails done. We ate dinner. I said good night. He would go

and the police are at my house. N.T., 1/14/2014, at 98.

Id. at 263. Forcing Child to live with Father primarily, without Father having participated in the ordered counseling to work on their communication issues, is almost certain to traumatize Child emotionally.

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focus being on structure and discipline.

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However, the trial court wen Mother and Father to work together with the Virginia school system to

Id. pon Mother and Father being able to cooperate simply cannot be justified in light of the conflict and a seemingly nonexistent level of cooperation between the

Id. at 7. enjoyed in a long-standing custody arrangement, and the happy relationships a child has developed with a parental figure and others may be

E.A.L. v. L.J.W., 662 A.2d 1109, 1117 (Pa. Super. 1995). See also K.L.H. v. G.D.H., 464 A.2d 1368, 1373

E.A.L., 662 A.2d at 1117 (quoting English

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v. English, 469 A.2d 270, 273 (Pa. Super. 1983)). See also Masser v. Miller, 913 A.2d 912, 921 (Pa. Super. 2006) (quoting Johns v. Cioci, 865 benefits of continuity and stability in custody arrangements and to the possibility of harm arising from disruption of longstanding patterns of

In the instant case, there is no discussion by the trial court about the possibility of harm to Child in uprooting him from the care pattern he has known his entire life and sending him, against his will, to live with Father. Even Father acknowledged that moving Child to Virgin that Child would be taken away from his school and his friends his junior year of high school, and placed in a home that he has spent two years trying to avoid, or, when he is there, seeking any means of leaving as soon as possible.

We do not minimize the benefit and importance of Child establishing and maintaining a healthy relationship with Father. Nor do we discount the harm that Mother has allowed to o relationship with Father. If she does not improve in this regard, a finding of contempt and sanctions against her could be appropriate. Nonetheless, with

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Mother during the school year. In all respects other than his relationship with Father, Child is thriving in his environment in Pennsylvania. Accordingly, consistent with this memorandum, we remand this case for entry of a new custody order granting primary physical custody to Mother.12 In the meantime, the provisions of the September 2012 custody order shall apply.

Order vacated. Case remanded for further proceedings. Jurisdiction relinquished. Judgment Entered.

Joseph D. Seletyn, Esq. Prothonotary

Date: 8/11/2014 ____________________________________________

12 Because we file this memorandum prior to the beginning of the school or Stay.

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