McPherson v. Ryan

Morse, J. The plaintiff brought suit in the circuit court for the county of Wayne to recover damages for an alleged breach of promise to marry, and obtained judgment against the defendant for $4,500. Numerous errors are alleged to have taken place upon the trial, and we shall endeavor to notice those that we deem material. 1. The defendant’s counsel insist with great earnestness that there was no evidence tending to show the defendant’s promise to marry plaintiff, save that which was clearly incompetent, and that the court should have directed the jury to find for the defendant because of the want of such testimony. We see no reason to change our views as intimated on the argument upon this subject. Putting aside, for the purposes of this question, all evidence of the plaintiff’s — 36 — declarations in the convent to Sister Tan Dyke and Miss Grandy, or at home to her parents and relatives, the testimony of the plaintiff and defendant, taken together, was sufficient, without other corroboration, to warrant the submission of the case to the jury. While there seems to be but little, if any, evidence of a formal declaration of marriage by the defendant, and a formal acceptance by plaintiff, it is nevertheless very evident that there is much in the testimony of these two, and their acts, tending to show a tacit and well-understood agreement between them to marry, although no definite time was ever fixed for the ceremony. The plaintiff’s evidence shows that she joined the Catholic church, and attended the Convent of the Sacred Heart, because of their intended marriage, and for no other reasons ; that she told defendant if he did not intend to marry her, she did not wish to attend the convent, and that he replied he did. When he proposed to stand as her godfather upon her entry into the Catholic church, she told him that he could not do so if he was ever going to marry her, and he said, “That settles it.” The defendant denies these promises and conversations, but the fact remains from his own evidence that he abandoned the idea of acting as sponsor, and procured a friend to act in his stead, because of the reason she gave for his not doing so. He admits that he paid her tuition at the convent, and thought she was a bright, pleasant girl, and that “ perhaps it might possibly be, if ever she got around so I thought she would satisfy me for a wife, that possibly, under some circumstances I might marry her.” He asked her at one time that in case he was ever married to her, would she want everything his brother John’s wife had. When the relations were broken off between them, as she testifies, she left the convent, and he admits that he gave her to understand that he did not intend to marry her, and wanted nothing more to do with her. As soon as he informed her that he did not intend to mairy her, his visits to and his assumed guardianship over her ceased, and they became as strangers. The relations and intimacy between them prior to this seems to tend as strongly towards — 37 — supporting her statement of a mutual promise to marry as it does towards sustaining his theory. The sudden ending of his care over her, and the conduct of the parties thereafter, certainly has as much the appearance of the breaking of a matrimonial engagement as it does the sundering of a platonic friendship, with only a hazy idea of possible marriage in the distant future. The promise to marry was also supported by the testimony of the parents and the brother of plaintiff, who gave evidence tending to show an admission of defendant that he was engaged to plaintiff, and that he formally asked and obtained the consent of the father and mother to the marriage. 2. It is also alleged as error that the court permitted Sister Van Dyke and Miss G-randy to give evidence that the plaintiff, while she was in the convent, told them, in substance, that she was engaged to the defendant, and he was going to marry her; and that these declarations, not in the presence of defendant, were allowed to be used, not alone to show damage, but as evidence in corroboration of the main fact to be established, the existence of a promise to marry. There is no doubt but it was so used. The court instructed the jury: “ And if you find that the defendant promised to marry the plaintiff — for that is the first thing to find — then the conduct of the plaintiff and her statements, even though not in the presence of the defendant, are admissible for the purpose of showing that she promised to marry him.” Also, further in his charge, the court says: “You have heard the plaintiff’s story regarding her acquaintance with the defendant; the letters passing between them; * * * her attending the church to which defendant belonged; his sending her to the convent to improve her education. * * * She has also brought as witnesses her parents, who have testified that the defendant came to their house, and asked their consent to the marriage, which they say was given. She has also introduced the testimony of Madame Van Dyke and the Ohio school-mate.” This directly authorized the jury to take into .consideration the declaration of plaintiff to Madame Van Dyke and Miss — 38 — Grandy, made in tbe absence of defendant, with the other facts, to establish the promise of marriage and the nuptial engagement between the parties. This was error. It wa3 nothing more nor less than using the declarations of plaintiff in her own behalf to establish her case. I know there is authority to sustain the admissibility of this kind of evidence to prove the woman’s promise, but this exception to the general rule against such testimony, allowed in breach of promise cases, seems to have been founded upon an apparent necessity when parties were not allowed to testify in their own behalf. The contract to marry not generally being made in the presence of witnesses, the declarations of the plaintiff and her actions were, to use the language of the courts allowing such evidence, “ frequently the only, and ordinarily the best and most satisfactory, evidence of the existence of the engagement.” Nearly all the decisions supporting the admission of these declarations were pronounced while the parties were yet ineligible to give the making of the promise and its breach in evidence, and the others have followed the rule after the reason for it has ceased to exist. While the plaintiff could not herself testify as to the marriage contract, the law allowed a wide and liberal range of evidence to establish it. All facts showing the personal intimacy of the parties; the conduct of the plaintiff, as well as of the defendant; the action of the plaintiff’s parents; the purchase of the wedding outfit, and other preparations looking towards an approaching marriage; the declaration of the plaintiff as to the faet of her engagement and intended union with the defendant, were admitted to prove a promise of marriage, being from the nature of things the best evidence then attainable to prove it. But under our statute, when the plaintiff is permitted, as she was in this case, to fully and freely testify in her own behalf to the fact of the promise itself, and every incident in detail connected with it, the reason for allowing her to use her declarations, made subsequently without the knowledge or consent of the defendant, to corroborate her own oath, no longer exists. And every reason that applies tó — 39 — the exclusion of this kind of testimony in other cases forbids its further use in actions of this nature. The plaintiff, as courts and juries must ever be constituted, has certainly advantage enough of the defendant, without giving her the opportunity of fabricating, by her acts and declarations, without his consent or knowledge, evidence to make a case against him. It would place almost any man at the mercy of an evil-disposed and designing woman. An adventuress could come into court and swear to a promise of marriage, and then bring others of like ilk, her friends and intimates, to sustain her with testimony of the stories she had told them in furtherance of her plan to secure damages. There is no necessity of throwing open the door of courts to such opportunities to work injustice. When the plaintiff has the equal right with the defendant to place fully before the jury the story of her wrongs aided, as she will ever be, by the sympathy always accorded to both the weakness and the beauty of her sex — a sympathy which the most rigid administration of justice cannot entirely prevent — right and equity demand that she shall no longer have the aid which the law refuses in all other cases. “ The law has an open ear for the complaints of deserted innocence, and the tribunals of the law áre quite ready enough to give full effect to such evidence as is usually submitted in actions of this sort to prove the promise of the recreant lover ; but if he is to be charged with infidelity to his vows, not upon proved circumstances, but upon the surmises, suspicions, opinions, and inferences of witnesses, we shall be in great danger of producing more evils than we remedy, and of sacrificing the legal rights of a man to redress the imagined wrongs of a woman.” This language, by Justice Woodward, in 24 Pa. St. 405, naturally applies to some of the evidence permitted in the case before us; and particularly to the testimony of Madame Yan Dyke, who was allowed to state her surmises, inferences and suppositions that the plaintiff and defendant were engaged to be married, obtained wholly from the acts and declarations of the plaintiff in the absence of defendant. The theory that these declarations are admissible to prove — 40 — hér promise will not avail. I believe, with the supreme court of Massachusetts, that “ a mutual promise of marriage is not composed of two distinct parts, unconnected with each other, and to be severally proved by independent evidence. A promise by the defendant at one time, and the assent of the plaintiff at another, will not do. The conduct of the plaintiff, in the absence of the defendant, and not in any way connected with him, has no more tendency to prove that he received her promise than it has to prove that he made one to her Russell v. Cowles, 15 Gray, 586. The tendency of the later cases is to exclude declarations of this kind, and even evidence of preparations for marriage by the plaintiff have been held inadmissible: Russell v. Cowles, 15 Gray, 583; Walmsley v. Robinson, 63 Ill. 42; Cates v, McKinney, 48 Ind. 562 ; Graham v. Martin, 64 Ind. 573. To prove the promise as to either in this way is to prove it as to both. These declarations of plaintiff to Madame Yan Dyke and the schoolmate, and their “surmises” and inferences therefrom, could not be used to prove the engagement of plaintiff to defendant without necessarily showing, as it did, his engagement to her, and his promise to marry. Indeed, the testimony of Madame Yan Dyke was that she “learned from Nellie positively that they were affianced, not from Mr. Ryan.” She “surmised it, and Nellie had positively told us it was a fact.” Miss Grandy testified : “ She told me that Mr. Ryan was sending her there, and that they were engaged to be married as soon as she was out of school.” It is very clear that the language of these witnesses tended equally to prove a promise by each to marry the other. It could not be used to establish her promise without proving his also ; and, under the direction of the court, it was so used. It was also error, within the same principle, to admit evidence that the neighbors knew that plaintiff was in the convent at defendant’s expense, preparing to get married, when it turned out upon cross-examination, as it naturally would, that all the neighbors knew about it was what the plaintiff’s mother had told them. It was the veriest hearsay. — 41 — 3. Errors are alleged in the admission and rejection of testimony upon the subject of defendant’s wealth. It was a proper subject of inquiry, and we do not think the defendant was harmed by the course of the investigation in that respect. The whole inquiry, as shown by the record, taking the testimony introduced by both parties, was a fair one, and probably brought before the jury the financial standing and ability of the defendant as fairly and fully as can ordinarily be done in court. 4. The court erred, I think, in directing the jury, as heretofore stated, to take into consideration the acts and declaration of the plaintiff, not in the presence of defendant, to prove the promise of marriage, but I find no objection to the balance of his charge. It is strongly contended that the court should have instructed the jury that there was no evidence in the case which would justify exemplary or punitive damages. If the story of the plaintiff is a true one, the manner of breaking off the engagement was abrupt and wanton, most humiliating to a young girl in her circumstances and condition, and the damages awarded by the jury, if they believed her testimony, can hardly be called excessive, when we consider the financial and social standing of the defendant. I can find no other material errors in the record, but for those noted, in my opinion a new trial should be granted, with costs of this Court to defendant. Champlin, J., concurred.